File under the heading

“What gets Measured gets Managed.”


  How do you manage your life?

                You Measure  It!

Is your relationship bringing you down?

Is your relationship making you sick?

Relationship Medicine - Love Codes

Dr Denny

Relationship Medicine

Is your cancer in any way caused by your emotional reaction to the stress of your relationships ?


Is your heart disease?


Is your diabetes?


Is your pain?

The measure of your life

is the measure of your relationships.

The measure of your relationships

is the measure of your happiness.

The measure of your happiness

is the measure of the love in your life,                   the giving and the getting.

Therefore, the measure of your life is                         the measure of your love.

Said another way,

the measure of your health is

the measure of your love.


I want to introduce you to the idea of how your mind affects your body and vice versa.

Below is an excerpt from researcher Dr. Candace Pert as well as an acupuncturist Subhuti Dharmananda, Ph.D discussing how 3,000 year old Chinese Medicine looks at how your emotions can affect the growth of  of cancer.w Emotions May Contribute to Cancer

Excessive stress and highly negative emotions can cause acid conditions within the body. Candace Pert researched this theory in her landmark book Molecules of Emotion,


“My research has shown me that when emotions are expressed--which is to say that the biochemicals that are the substrate of emotion are flowing freely--all systems are united and made whole. When emotions are repressed, denied, not allowed to be whatever they may be, our network pathways get blocked, stopping the flow of the vital feel-good, unifying chemicals that run both our biology and our behavior.”

~ Dr. Candace B. Pert 


Dr. Bruce Lipton has also conducted extensive research on this issue.

"We can control our lives by controlling our perceptions." ~

Bruce Lipton PhD.


Since these negative emotions have such a powerful effect on our health, it might become a top priority for many patients to confront the extreme stress involved with these perceptions. Nutrition can certainly help calm our agitation and anxiety without prescription. There are some excellent amino acid products for combating depression, anxiety and stress, whether or not it is associated with cancer. 


Subhuti Dharmananda, Ph.D.,

Director of the Institute for Traditional Medicine, writes,

“The Traditional Chinese medical view of cancer etiology holds that there are several possible contributing factors, and that one of the principal causes is internal factors, namely emotions.”

Sun Binyan agrees with this premise

and writes in his book,

Cancer Treatment and Prevention


“According to our understanding of the tumor patient, most have suppression of the emotions. They tend to hold in their anger. Although some patients have good results after treatment, emotional stimulation may cause them to decline again and then the previous treatment would have been in vain. Some people have a severe phobia about cancer. Before they know the real disease, they have a lot of suspicion. Once they know they have the cancer, their whole spirit breaks down. This kind of spiritual state is very bad for the treatment.”


This is an important subject. When someone has cancer there are probably emotional issues that have been at play for a long time. To best understand that this possibility exists we need to have an open mind. The concept of mind affecting the body is not new. The concept that relationships can affect your health is new, in some circles. Read further for some rather startling facts.


Marriage and Longevity

Research shows that…


1. Married people tend to live longer than their single, divorced, and widowed counterparts.


2. Married people are generally less likely to die from all causes.


3. The "influence" wives have over men’s lifestyle habits helps men live longer.


4. Marriage actually causes changes in a person's brain, making him feel more contented.


5. Married men live an average of three years more than a bachelor.


Are all marriages good for you?


Of course not, it depends on what kind of a marriage you have. If your marriage is like hell on earth, it will eventually take its toll on your health, not to mention your outlook on life.


Canadian psychiatrist Brian Baker found that unhappily married people with mild hypertension had higher blood pressure readings in the presence of their spouses and lower readings when they were away from them. As they remained in their deteriorating marriages, they had a thickening of the left ventricle of their heart, a condition that can lead to heart failure. The happily married people actually had lower blood pressure readings when they were with their spouses. The "my-marriage-is-bad-for-my-health" defense could become a valid justification for separation or divorce.


More health conditions link bad health to a bad marriage. Studies have found that a bad marriage can give you gum disease, stomach and intestinal ulcers. Marital arguments can cause negative changes in your endocrine and immune system.  Stressful conversations with your spouse can boost the levels of the stress hormones, cortisol and epinephrine, and keep levels elevated for more than twenty-two hours after the argument.


Those are the facts. There are plenty more but this is just an introduction to the much larger field of study called Mind Body Relationship Medicine. Start considering the possibility that your negative relationships may be causing a problem with your health.


However, before you start blaming your spouse for your cancer, you need to remember that it is your reaction to a bad relationship that causes the internal changes in your body chemistry that depresses your immune system.


Or you may be the cause of the conflict int he realtionship and you don't even know it. Don't throw out the relationship. Study some new material.


We suggest study our Relationship Intelligence and Emotional Intelligence Training Course. It's part of our wholistic program. 



The Poison of Anger


Getting angry and staying angry at your spouse or anyone else in your life is counterproductive. There is a great line that says


“Anger is like taking poison and expecting someone else to die”.


Anger causes negative chemical changes in the body. Chemical changes in the body cause us to get sick. 

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